Gentle Christian Families (GCF) is associated with Gentle Christian Mothers. GCF is a site for fathers and mothers (and parents-to-be) who practice what is commonly called "attachment parenting" and who strive to by God's grace use gentle, "grace-based" discipline. It is also for parents who are sincerely seeking to respectfully learn more about these ideas and how to incorporate these ideas into their family life in a healthy and successful manner.
Sometimes there is disagreement within families as to how the specifics of these ideas will play out within each family, and we hope to be able encourage you in your search to find common ground that will help meet the needs of each family member while focusing on strengthening and building a family that brings glory to God.
Statement of Beliefs
Our Christian Beliefs
- The Bible is the complete, infallible, inerrant, inspired written Word of God; it is the final authority on what a Christian is called to believe. We do not hold Church Tradition to be on equal footing with Scripture.
- There is one God: He is of one essence yet He has existed eternally in three persons - God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.
- Jesus, God in flesh who was conceived by the Holy Spirit, died on the cross and paid the penalty for our sins and rose again the third day.
- We are sinners and could never be "good enough" to make it to heaven or to please God in any way, and, without Christ, we are enemies of God and destined for eternal punishment and separation from God. Romans 3:10, 11, 12; Romans 3:21-24; Jeremiah 17:9; Isaiah 64:6; Romans 6:23a
- Salvation is a free gift from God, and we are not saved by our own works, but rather we are saved by grace alone through faith alone by Christ alone. His righteousness is credited to us and in Him we have assurance of salvation. Romans 6:23b; Ephesians 2:8, 9
- Those who are saved have been given a new heart which desires to do His will and which loves Him above all else. II Corinthians 5:17; John 14:23; James 2:26
- We embrace all members of the invisible Church.
Our Parenting Beliefs
- All children are a gift from God. Psalm 127:3
- The husband/wife marriage relationship is the scriptural model for creating a family.
- Life begins at conception, and unborn babies have a right to life and should be nurtured and loved. Psalm 139:13-16
- Babies deserve the most natural and gentle birth possible.
- Babies communicate through crying, and their cries deserve a quick, nurturing response.
- Parents should not put an unnecessary emphasis on schedules.
- Children greatly benefit from lots of physical touch, and babies can not be held too much.
- Breastmilk is God's design in infant nutrition.
- Breastfeeding satisfies not only babies' hunger and thirst, but it also is a great way to pacify and comfort them.
- Breastfeeding babies on cue is important not only to help them grow strong and healthy, but it also helps them to learn to trust.
- Breastfeeding into toddlerhood--and for as long as mother and child desire--continues to provide health and emotional benefits and serves to strengthen the foundation of trust laid in infancy.
- Children's nighttime needs are as worthy of being met as their daytime needs, and each child has individual nighttime needs that should be respected and met to the best of their parents' ability.
- There should be minimal separation between mother and baby, and parents need to be sensitive to their children's need to be close to them and not force separation before their child is ready.
- Everyone benefits when children are an integral part of the family's daily life.
- A father's involvement in raising his children is vital.
- Parents have been given authority over their children from the Lord. Scripture is clear that discipline and correction are our responsibility as we raise our children in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
- Fear and purposely-inflicted pain have no place in gentle, loving, Biblical discipline, and children should be discipled from birth with an appropriate mixture of kindness and firmness in a manner that respects their feelings and their developmental, emotional, and daily needs.
- Parents are responsible for making informed decisions regarding their children's healthcare.
We are not perfect parents, and we make mistakes all too often, but we believe that our children are a gift from God. God chose us to parent our children, and we can be sure that He, by His grace and mercy, will provide the tools necessary to do so in a way that will bring glory to Him.